Tuesday, June 28, 2016

The Biggest Problem in Relationships among older couples is!!!

Hello everyone, I hope your doing fabulous today and enjoying the beautiful weather we are having.

Yesterday I was visiting my parents who had some friends over, and I heard a complaint  come from one of the husband. He said " When I get home from work my wife is on the computer, I wait for a few minutes, and when she does not get off I go into the bedroom, and watch TV until I pass out."

This got me thinking as I have heard my step dad say this many times as well about my mom.

This got me thinking more, so I started doing a little research....

I found that in older couples where the couples have been married for 15+ years that they have gotten comfortable in their relationship, and found new things to interest them.

On the plus size I have found that older people who are willing to get to know a computer, and have one, do not become addicted the way we younger people do.

They find the things they are comfortable with. For instance my mom loves to play games on pogo. She is obsessed with earning badges, and helping her sister, and friends earn their badges to, however this has taken up hours of her time in the evening. This is also the time that my step dad gets home from work, and would like to spend some time with his wife. What happens is he eats some dinner, and watches tv,or reads the paper, and then goes to bed, all while my mom is in playing her pogo games.

I have found this to be a problem among a lot of people who have been married for so long that they have become comfortable with each other. To comfortable.


I have a way to help you if you are in this situation....

First off.,,, Get off the damn computer, and spend time with your husband,,,

I know that maybe he has turned into one of those older guys who tells the same story over and over. Maybe you don't find it romantic that all he does is scratch himself, and not shave for days. I get that, I really do.

This is why you both need to make some changes. First off, guys if you want her to start paying attention to you then give her a reason to. Shower and shave and take her out to dinner and a movie. She don't want to sit and watch sports with you at night. Maybe some women do but most won't. 

Ladies take charge and let your man know that you want to do something. If you don't want to go out then stay in and have some romance. Remember when you were younger, and your kids were young, and you were sneaking off to have some alone time with out the kids. Well now you have that chance to enjoy it so please do. 

Don't let something small come in between you and the love of your life.

Please remember that life is short and you never know what tomorrow will bring. I know this amazing lady who is in her early 50's and works in the town I live in. Her husband worked a lot, and they did not alway get the time they wanted together, He passed away two weeks ago of a sudden heart attack. She is devastated because she never thought she would lose him so young.

You would hate for something to happen to your hubby tomorrow and you couldn't remember the last time you spent a romantic night together because you had been too busy playing your games. 

Some people don't realize that you have to keep working on a relationship in order for it to work. Couples who have been married for 50+ years will tell you it was not easy. 

Love each other and take care of each other always....

Lots of love
Kaylee Shadows

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