Saturday, February 25, 2017

Top 10 ways to survive everyday arguments with your love!!!

Hello everyone, I hope your having a fabulous day and I hope you find this article to be helpful in your current or future relationships.

We all know that fighting with our partner is a huge downer. We cry, we get mad, sometimes we throw stuff. However your fights turn out to be, you know that they are upsetting, and confusing and hurtful. This is something that none of us want.

Every couple will fight, and even have big fights every now and then, but how do we survive the everyday annoying bickers between us and our love?

Well that is what I am here to tell you.....

Fighting takes a lot out of a person, even if it's a little fight.  The goal here is to stop with the little fights, (bickerfest as I call them) and enjoy the days we have with our partners.

Number 1... Communication

Communication is the number one key to surviving any relationship. If you can be open with your partner then you will be able to stop arguing over the little things like who left the cap off the toothpaste. Instead of yelling at your love that they are a frickin moron who can't do something as simple as put the cap back on the toothpaste, stop and think how you would feel if they did that to you? Instead try calmly telling your love that it is a huge pet peeve of yours to see that and ask them to try to not do it. Another way would be to accept it and just put it on yourself because it is seriously not a reason to fight. 

Number 2... Have Fun

Having fun with your partner is essential for your relationship to grow. If your bored or irritated with each other then eventually you will break up. No one wants that!!! Find things to do with each other just like you did when you first got together. If you like to see movies then go to a movie. If you used to go riding together then go riding together. You get the point of what I am saying. Don't let your love die.

Number 3...Be Best Friends

Remember what it was like that time you and your best friend went on vacation and they got so drunk they fell out of the car and you took a picture? NO? Hmm ok so maybe that is just me LOL, however if you don't have a story like this about your love then something is wrong. Your love should be more than just your partner. They should be your best friend as well.  The person you confide all your secrets in and who you laugh with a lot. 

Number 4... Be Lovers

Yes exactly what that says. Be lovers. Remember when you first met and you could not keep your hands off each other? That should not change. Now yes eventually the heat dies down a little because real life kicks in and you can't spend 24 hours a day in bed, but that does not mean you should lose that heat. If you can't be together then text each other a sexy text letting your love know you are thinking about them...naked ;) 

Number 5... Compliment Each Other

Instead of bitching at each other or bickering over the little things remember to compliment each other.  Tell each other sweet things and remember how lucky you are to have each other.

Number 6... Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

Exactly.... Life is so short and relationships are meant to keep us happy. Yes I know that not everything is perfect all the time, and that is where the actual fights come in at, but life would be happier more often than not if people would just let go of the little things. If something tragically happened to your love tomorrow and they were gone from this world, do you think that you would care that they used to leave their socks on the floor or their stuff all over the bathroom? No you would give anything for one last kiss, one last moment to tell them how much you loved them. Think of that the next time you start to get upset over nothing.

Number 7... Be Considerate

In all of these little bickering moments that you have had with your love, try to think of what the point was. It's hard when someone is basically insulting you, and bitching about the things you do. Naturally we get defensive and don't really think of what our partner is saying. However, now you are all cooled off think back to those arguments, and think about what your partner was actually trying to tell you. Maybe they are telling you that you don't rinse your dish off after you use it. You might take offense to this or not see what the problem is, and a fight occurs. In reality they are probably telling you this because if you don't rinse your dish then food sticks to it and it becomes a real bitch to wash. LOL plain and simple.

Number 8... Go out of your way

Yes go out of your way to do something nice for your love. Make them breakfast in bed when they least expect it. Don't wait for a holiday or special occasion to do it. Do it now and they will love you for it. 

Number 9... Say I Love You

Yes we all say I love you but this is something you should tell your love every day, at least. I tell my baby I love him many times throughout the day because he is so cute, and funny, and I love him. He should know that, and so should your partner. This never gets old. 

Number 10... It is not always about YOU!!!

As much as we hate to admit it, and don't want to hear it, the truth is that sometimes it's not about you. If your partner is having a bad day or is upset and needs some time alone or just a hug then do it. They deserve to get that from you without it becoming your issue. Try to put yourself aside and be there for them when they need you. 

I hope this has been helpful and will help you in the future. I believe that every relationship deserves a fighting chance and that everyone deserves love, so love each other, 

Lots of love
Kaylee Shadows

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