Thursday, March 16, 2017

How soon should you have sex in a relationship?

Hey everyone I want to talk today about how soon in a relationship should you have sex? I think this topic is very hard to handle and a lot of people  really struggle with it, because they're not sure how soon is too soon and how long is too long and eventually will be they lose the person they are with if they don't have sex fast enough.

These are really good questions and first off if your with someone who says they are going to leave you if you don't have sex with them, well they suck and you should let them leave. Sex is a big deal and you should never feel pressured to have sex with someone. I know today that people think sex is casual and not a big deal but these people are wrong. I know there are some people who can have casual sex, I am personally not one of them, but that does not mean it should be casual or that you should feel pressured.

Now to answer how soon should you have sex in a relationship I don't believe there is a certain amount of time. There is no right answer, there is only what you think is best.

Now I'm not going to tell you that you should wait to get married before you have sex or anything like that, but I am going to tell you to wait until you know it's right. Think of how many times you've heard someone in a relationship says UHHH I should have never slept with that jerk or I should've waited till I knew him better. You don't want this to be another one of those stories so if you feel like you should get to know them better before you do that then I say wait.

However this does not mean that if you do have sex early in your relationship that your relationship is doomed. I have had different relationships, such as my first husband I wait awhile before having sex and my second husband, well let's just say I couldn't wait to tap that lol. He is super sexy....


Sex is something that is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. You should never feel pressured to do something you don't want, and you should never feel like sex is an obligation. Just have fun and enjoy your new relationship and take as much time is you need.

Lots of Love